“Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man.” ~Benjamin Franklin
Ok, so maybe Benjamin Franklin was suggesting self-improvement instead of you finding a new man, but he was definitely onto something. New Year’s eve is here and you’re still debating if you should attend the party you rsvp’d to a month ago. While staring in the mirror looking back at your reflection, you are struggling to make a final decision. Your hesitation isn’t due to not being able to find the right outfit, but due to the fact that you are spending yet another New Year’s eve alone, single, without a boyfriend or even a potential one. The New Year’s eve parties you have been to in the past were chock full of couples and when you were half of a couple you didn’t mind. Now that you’re single you are afraid of sticking out like a sore thumb. It seems that you aren’t reminded of your single status until the holidays come around, which is when you usually go into hibernation hoping no one notices. This is usually the time of year you stock up on microwave popcorn, close your shades and watch movies hoping to fall asleep before midnight so you can act as if your solitude doesn’t faze you.
Well listen up, it’s time to say goodbye to the lonely and self loathing holidays and say hello to a new potential mate. Stop trying to find a reason to call and cancel. Chances are the host won’t believe your excuse anyway and then you will just appear to be inconsiderate. Instead, treat this party as an opportunity to show yourself off and meet Mr. Right, or at the very least Mr. Right Now. Think about the excitement of entering a new year and let that be your motivation for new beginnings. Just because you are single, doesn’t mean you have to be alone, right? Attend the party and put your best foot forward. Go all out with your dress, make-up, hair and accessories, because when you look good you feel good.
When you arrive at the party, be sure to have the host point out and introduce you to the other singles in attendance. It’s time to let your true personality shine and check your timid self at the door. Make your rounds while taking the time to really enjoy yourself. Be sure to stop and make small talk with some friends and old co-workers you haven’t seen in a while. By that time you probably will have caught the attention of a few good men. Politely find your way into their space and introduce yourself. There is nothing in the rule book that says the woman can’t initiate the conversation so go for it. If you keep this up, you may be lucky enough to have found a match before the countdown ends. Happy New Year!