The 10 Myths About Being a Bridesmaid

Your best friend asks you to be in the wedding party. What an honor, right? As Kristen Wiig discovers in the new film about these ladies in waiting, being a bridesmaid is a thankless, expensive chore. Don’t believe the lies perpetrated by all those Bridezillas. Here we bust the 10 most popular myths.

Myth #1
“The groomsmen are hot! You’ll meet the man of your dreams, maybe your future husband.”
Half of the groomsmen will be married, the rest will resemble gnomes. And 15 minutes after the reception starts, they will all be on their way to starring in Hangover 3.

Myth #2
“It will mean sooo much to me to have you there on my special day.”
The only person the bride cares about on her special day is the bride. Even the groom comes in a distant second. Any conversations you have will concern her—how beautiful her gown is, how great her hair looks, etc. etc.

Myth #3
“I know the dress is expensive, but you will find so many ways to wear it again.”
Yes, if you plan to go to a costume party dressed as a cupcake.

Myth #4
“I know you’ll want to help with the bridal shower. Don’t worry my sister is doing it and she’s very good at managing budgets.”
Yes, for the U.S. Government. Get ready to write that blank check.

Myth #5
“It’s a destination wedding! I know you’ve always wanted to go to______.”
Yes, you’ve been dying to use your vacation budget (or frequent flyer miles) to go off to some remote island jungle. Pack that sunblock and insecticide.

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“I’m sorry you can’t invite a guest, but we’re really trying to keep the numbers down and just invite our closest friends.”
That’s why her father has invited 450 of his business associates.

Myth #7
“Your hair always looks so great! I know the hairdresser I’ve booked will make it look even better.”
So what if you look like a Hollywood hooker? Maybe you can write off that $200 as a business expense.

Myth #8
“Even though I’m getting married, we’ll still spend time together.”
She’ll be able to squeeze you in every other Tuesday for coffee, if her husband is out of town.

Myth #9
“I don’t expect you to buy me a gift! Having you in my wedding is gift enough.”
And if you don’t buy her that silver from Tiffany’s, everyone will know that you are cheap.

Myth #10
“I can’t wait til you get married and I can be in your wedding.”
Okay, now she’s jinxed it for sure. You’re doomed to be always the bridesmaid, never the bride. Make room in that closet.

About Charlene Giannetti (663 Articles)
Charlene Giannetti, editor of Woman Around Town, is the recipient of six awards from the New York Press Club for articles that have appeared on the website. A graduate of Syracuse University’s S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications, Charlene began her career working for a newspaper in Pennsylvania, then wrote for several publications in Washington, covering environment and energy policy. In New York, she was an editor at Business Week magazine and her articles have appeared in many newspapers and magazines including the New York Times. She is the author of 11 non-fiction books, eight for parents of young adolescents written with Margaret Sagarese, including "The Roller-Coaster Years," "Cliques," and "Boy Crazy." She and Margaret have been keynote speakers at many events and have appeared on the Today Show, CBS Morning, FOX News, CNN, MSNBC, NPR, and many others. Charlene divides her time between homes in Manhattan and Alexandria, Virginia. Her new book is "Parenting in a Social Media World."