Read about xeloda breast cancer here

Posts Tagged ‘Leo’

Finding Life’s Answers in a Fortunate Cookie

Sunday, January 24th, 2010 by Marie Hansen-Lehmann

sarah-grace-photo

By Marie Hansen Lehmann

Sarah Grace McCandless is the author of two gorgeously nostalgic and poignant novels about adolescence, Grosse Pointe Girl and The Girl I Wanted to Be. She runs a monthly column CRUSH on Forces of Geek and can sometimes be seen reading her teenage diary entries for Mortified. It should be noted that she possesses the rare and uncanny ability to discuss the merits of Star Wars and Golden Globe dresses with equal passion. Hailing originally from Michigan, Sarah is now a New York City girl.

Woman Around Town had the opportunity to talk with her about her new and inspiring project Fortunate Cookie.

Can you describe your new project Fortunate Cookie?

Fortunate Cookie is a year-long personal mission I’ve committed myself to, where I seek guidance from the wisdom found inside fortune cookies. Every Friday, I track down a new cookie, crack it open, and then, regardless of the message, act on it and report on the outcome.? The idea came to me days before New Year’s, which is of course the prime time for self-reflection, and I was feeling pretty lost across the board. I primarily support myself as a consultant, and as such, I’m looked to as someone who is expected to have all the answers, but I’ve come up short when it pertains to my own life. I decided I needed a consultant of my own, but I’ve exhausted the self-help circuit, so I was willing to give anything a try—even something seemingly random, like a fortune cookie.

girl-i-wanted-to-beI noticed that this new year, more than in previous years, people have been embarking on more self-reflective exercises– especially ones that are more long-term like blogging or written journals. Do you think there has been a shift from traditional resolutions such as losing weight or eating healthy to more personal & mentally therapeutic goals? If so, do you think there is a reason for this shift?

I think resolutions centered on establishing or breaking bad habits will always be common simply because that’s what people talk about and it’s what’s expected. But it does seem like more and more people are taking those somewhat typical goals and folding them into bigger objectives, and this might have something to do with the fact that 2009 seemed to be a really hard year for so many people in a number of ways. I think it’s created a desire for a more emotional or spiritual reward or change, beyond numbers on a scale or a good check-up at the doctor’s office. At least that’s what triggered it for me—a yearning for guidance that will hopefully lead me to the discovery of a more clearly defined purpose for myself.

What made you decide on using fortune cookies as opposed to say– astrology or horoscopes?

I think I like the idea that there’s a personal choice involved with fortune cookies, as compared to a blanket statement put out there for anyone born between a certain date bracket (I’m a Leo, incidentally). With the cookies, there’s at least some sense of control because I get to mix up where I get them from every week, which is really fun and adds to the journey aspect of it all. Oh, and speaking of Zodiac—in terms of the Chinese New Year, which falls on February 14 this year—I was born in the Year of the Tiger. 2010 also happens to be the Year of the Tiger! I didn’t realize this when I first started the Fortunate Cookie project, but I love the synchronicity.

Have you noticed any patterns in the fortunes? Do they usually fall under a particular theme? What do you do if you get the same fortune twice?

Well, it’s still early on, so no patterns yet, but that’s part of what I hope to trace throughout this experiment. I guess the only pattern so far is the fact that I find myself really analyzing the words in each fortune, but that might just be the writer in me. I think it would be really fun if I got the same fortune twice, so I could compare where I was when I first got it, and how or if I’ve changed by the second time it comes around.

fortunatecookielogo2

It’s really interesting because you take the idea of a fortune, and instead of seeing if the fortune will predict the future, you use it to dictate what you should be doing to improve your life. It’s like adding the concept of free will into the equation, which in turn makes the fortune actually become true! Before this experiment, did you always view fortunes the same way (as a method for improving) or did you take them as prophetic of future events?

When I first got the idea for this project, I wasn’t sure the fortunes would serve as a sign of things to come, or inspire me to head in a particular direction. Though I’ve made a conscious decision to act on the fortunes as much as possible, I still think there’s a prediction element involved. I really like the mix of the two approaches, and I think it will be interesting to see if there’s a week where a particular fortune proves to be particularly challenging in terms of trying to weave it into my life—will it find a way in regardless?

Prior to this project, I think I looked at fortunes from cookies as more of a test, in the sense of, “Does this actually apply to my life as is right now?” versus a directive of any kind. And though I’m sure some would say this trick never gets old, I’m happy to report I’ve long since graduated from adding the phrase “in bed” to the end of every message. Ah, maturity!

It seems that in so many cultures, eating is used as a time for reflection; many people say grace before a meal or open a fortune cookie at the end… What do you think it is about meals and eating that promotes reflection? Do you think it is because it is a repetitive act or one that we need to survive which causes us to focus more on our lives in general?

Actually, I think it would be nice to have MORE reflection associated with eating and meals. It seems like in the U.S., it’s all about what’s convenient and quick, and that’s not doing anything for our souls, or our waistlines. But in other cultures, it seems like the reflection is a natural fit when it comes to “breaking bread” so to speak, especially because you’re often in the company of others, so it makes sense that a discussion along those lines might evolve. I’m a big fan of intimate dinner parties to foster this type of dialogue, but I think I need to improve my cooking skills before hosting any such events on a regular basis. I’m working on it, though!

So, of course my final question is what is your favorite Chinese dish?

If I’m being “good,” I usually order some sort of steamed selection, like today I had steamed shrimp and snow peas with just a touch of brown rice and garlic sauce on the side. If I’m not watching my waistline or counting calories, I love anything that involves noodles or cooked Szechuan style. Also, I almost ALWAYS order egg drop soup with my meal—I use it as a gauge to assess the quality of a given place. Good egg drop soup equals good Chinese food. Trust me: it never fails.

Follow along with Sarah’s fortune cookie adventure at: http://blog.fortunatecookieblog.com/

How to Work With Your Boss by Their Astrology Sign

Sunday, September 20th, 2009 by Woman Around Town

fortune-telling

By Gary Goldschneider

ARIES
March 21-April 20

Strengths: Inspiring, Dynamic, Trailblazing
Weaknesses: Unheeding, Stressed, Unaware
Interactive Style: Confrontational, Commanding, Blunt

The Aries Boss

Aries bosses are born leaders, so there will be little doubt as to their wishes concerning the direction the group should take. Explicit, clear, and demanding, these fiery individuals will ask for every ounce of commitment and energy their employees can muster, and then some. Because they are so comfortable in this role, they are eager to make decisions and see them implemented. True individuals, they naturally respect individuality in others and are surprisingly open to and even expectant of their employees acting on their own, once they understand what is expected of them.

TAURUS
April 21-May 21

Strengths: Stable, Attentive, Careful
Weaknesses: Bossy, Inflexible, Insensitive
Interactive Style: Concerned, Instructive, Explicit

The Taurus Boss

Many people have described the Taurus personality as bossy. Indeed, the Taurus boss is comfortable in this role, but prefers to stay behind the scenes and let things run smoothly on their own. This, of course, assumes that employees have been well coached and know what to expect from a Taurus boss. Such assumptions are not always justified, although Taurus bosses usually take the time and trouble to spell out how they want their employees to proceed. Rules and regulations are usually kept to a minimum but are written in stone, at least as far as the Taurus boss is concerned.

ZodiacGEMINI
May 22-June 21

Strengths: Lively, Communicative, Interesting
Weaknesses: Distracted, Superficial, Nervous
Interactive Style: Forward, Adaptable, Logical

The Gemini Boss

Most Geminis are not comfortable giving orders or running an organization day to day. They are basically types who enjoy being part of a team and sharing experiences on an equal level. Thus, although they are quite capable of taking on the work involved in being bosses, they are not born leaders themselves and would much prefer to hang back and let things run on their own. Gemini bosses are very good at delegating authority, relying on a few capable employees to oversee the activities of their company. Such individuals are usually well rewarded and given a wide range of responsibilities. However, the Gemini boss likes to make the final decisions on all important matters.

CANCER
June 22-July 22

Strengths: Low-key, Easy, Harmonious
Weaknesses: Overly demanding, Expectant, Particular
Interactive Style: Persuasive, Feeling, Empathic

The Cancer Boss

It can be a mistake to deny or underestimate the dominant qualities of the Cancer boss. Extremely particular about how things are done, Cancer bosses can be very demanding, albeit in a low-key manner. They expect their employees to understand their wishes and even to anticipate them. It is not so much rules and orders that count most for Cancer bosses, but the fact that everyone is on the same emotional wavelength. Not fond of trouble, Cancer bosses want things to run smoothly, and this fact underlies the importance of their dominance being unquestioned rather than power tripping, per se.

zodiac-lionLEO
July 23-August 23

Strengths: Fair, Proud, Commanding
Weaknesses: Egotistical, Power hungry, Self-centered
Interactive Style: Friendly, Open, Generous

The Leo Boss

Born leaders, Leos exult in assuming the top positions of any company. Ownership is not the most important thing for them, however — so as long as they are CEOs or directors, they are happy to be employees. Leo bosses try to be fair and impartial, succeeding in doing so as long as their authority is not questioned nor their job threatened. As they see it, they are simply representing everyone under them, trying to get them the best possible salaries, working conditions, opportunities for advancement, and benefits. Leos take great pride in their work, so when the company is being congratulated by stockholders, boards of directors, or owners, they are happy to accept for everyone else.

VIRGO
August 24-September 22

Strengths: Pragmatic, Realistic, Matter-of-fact
Weaknesses: Unresponsive, Unsympathetic, Cold
Interactive Style: Literal, Concise, Economical

The Virgo Boss

Virgo bosses are highly pragmatic and are generally realists. Thus the intent or ideals behind your actions are not nearly as important to them as the results. Facts and figures play a large role in their thinking, so be sure you have these at your fingertips when you are summoned to their offices. Excuses will be accepted only if they can be backed up with logic and acceptable evidence. Do not seek to arouse Virgo bosses’ sympathy or understanding, and keep your interactions as unemotional as possible. Virgo bosses highly value their time, as well as yours, so try not to waste it in idle banter.

libraLIBRA
September 23-October 22

Strengths: Popular, Charismatic, Likeable
Weaknesses: Conceited, Needy, Self-defeating
Interactive Style: Agreeable, Charming, Magnetic

The Libra Boss

The only things Libra bosses value more than being liked by their employees is being well liked by them. This intense need for popularity often betrays them and can even undermine their efforts. Instead of keeping their eye on the ball and striving for positive results, too often they are interested in their own personal gratification. At times their need for admiration seems boundless; those who know this are able to manipulate them through alternately giving and withholding praise. The struggle of Libra bosses to create successful companies is often against that most difficult of enemies — themselves.

SCORPIO
October 23-November 21

Strengths: Well-directed, Protective, Powerful
Weaknesses: Inflexible, Unforgiving, Harsh
Interactive Style: Serious, Hard-driving, Dominant

The Scorpio Boss

Scorpio bosses are serious individuals — hard-driving and dedicated to the company’s success. Consequently, they set extremely high standards for their employees and expect them to give the very best they have on a daily basis. Scorpios do not accept excuses for shoddy or slipshod work, preferring a frank admission of failure over attempts to explain it away. Powerful and dominant, Scorpio bosses sit in the driver’s seat at all times and do not allow their colleagues and fellow workers to question or undermine their authority. When reporting to their superiors or owners of the business, they seek to protect their own employees from unreasonable demands and insist on adequate and often abundant reward for their workers’ dedicated efforts.

sagittariusSAGITTARIUS
November 22-December 21

Strengths: Intuitive, Forceful, Quick
Weaknesses: Uncommunicative, Unclear, Unsympathetic
Interactive Style: Independent, Individualistic, Impulsive

The Sagittarius Boss

Because of their high degree of independence and individualism, Sagittarius bosses are not always suited to this role. Sagittarians are prone to go off suddenly and often precipitously in their own direction under a full head of steam, so it may be difficult for their employees to keep up with them. Furthermore, they may not take the time to communicate their thoughts clearly to other members of the company, preferring to let their own actions speak for themselves. Not really team players, Sagittarius bosses assume command and then follow their hunches rather than carefully mapping out a campaign and relegating duties carefully.

CAPRICORN
December 22-January 20

Strengths: Dominant, Determined, Self-assured
Weaknesses: Insensitive, Unheeding, Stubborn
Interactive Style: Authoritarian, Commanding, Firm

The Capricorn Boss

Capricorns are dominant personalities, and therefore bosses born under this sign will want to be obeyed without question. Moreover, they will insist on maintaining their position as bosses of the department or company, and under no circumstances will they allow you or anyone else to undermine their authority. “Never outshine the master” is a good rule to follow when working for a Capricorn boss. Not necessarily hungry for advancement, Capricorn bosses are more likely to hang onto their rung on the corporate ladder having once reached and, in most cases, intending to remain at that level as long as possible.

AquariusAQUARIUS
January 21-February 19

Strengths: Quick, Bright, Open
Weaknesses: Impatient, Erratic, Elusive
Interactive Style: Immediate, Unpredictable, Ungovernable

The Aquarius Boss

Since Aquarians are not particularly suited to be bosses, they are, generally speaking, rather few and far between. There are several reasons for this, among them their erratic and impulsive behavior, need to act on their own, lightning-quick moves, and general disinterest in holding power over others or setting up a dynasty. That said, if you have an Aquarius boss, at least you have been forewarned. Actually, they are often fun to work with (when you can catch up to them) and treat their employees quite generously. Their impatience is legendary, so do not try their quick tempers or frustrate them with your absence or tardiness when they really need you in the clutch.

PISCES
February 20-March 20

Strengths: Affluent, Fluid, Empathic
Weaknesses: Easily manipulated, Oversensitive, Overprotective
Interactive Style: Relaxed, Adaptable, Influential

The Pisces Boss
For some strange reason Pisces are thought of as being bad with money. Yet in history, and also in one’s own circle of friends, money seems to come easiest to those born under this sign. In the same way, a Pisces boss too frequently invokes the mistaken picture of an ultra-relaxed and indecisive fish flopping out of its depth, but in fact those born under this sign frequently make excellent bosses, even dynasty builders. Money making comes quite naturally to them, as it is a fluid medium that they totally understand, and nurturing Pisces bosses are more than capable of guarding the interests of their businesses and employees, bringing profit to all concerned.

Gary Goldschneider, author of Gary Goldschneider’s Everyday Astrology, is an astrologer and the author of several best-selling books, including The Secret Language of Birthdays, The Secret Language of Relationships, and The Secret Language of Destiny. He has studied astrology for forty years and frequently lectures and writes on the subject. An accomplished pianist and composer, he has performed in concerts and recitals worldwide. He lives in Amsterdam, where he writes a regular astrology column for AvantGarde magazine. Visit him on the Web at mypersonology.com and goldschneider.com

Find out why every woman wants to be a Woman Around Town

Sign up for our Free E-mails and receive news about upcoming events and promotions

Email:

  • RSS Feeds

  • Stay up to date on everything happening around town
Floral Studio Freshman Fifteen

Register

Become a Woman Around Town! It's FREE! Receive News & Specials right to your email!

Register For Woman Around Town