
By Marie Hansen Lehmann
Sarah Grace McCandless is the author of two gorgeously nostalgic and poignant novels about adolescence, Grosse Pointe Girl and The Girl I Wanted to Be. She runs a monthly column CRUSH on Forces of Geek and can sometimes be seen reading her teenage diary entries for Mortified. It should be noted that she possesses the rare and uncanny ability to discuss the merits of Star Wars and Golden Globe dresses with equal passion. Hailing originally from Michigan, Sarah is now a New York City girl.
Woman Around Town had the opportunity to talk with her about her new and inspiring project Fortunate Cookie.
Can you describe your new project Fortunate Cookie?
Fortunate Cookie is a year-long personal mission I’ve committed myself to, where I seek guidance from the wisdom found inside fortune cookies. Every Friday, I track down a new cookie, crack it open, and then, regardless of the message, act on it and report on the outcome.? The idea came to me days before New Year’s, which is of course the prime time for self-reflection, and I was feeling pretty lost across the board. I primarily support myself as a consultant, and as such, I’m looked to as someone who is expected to have all the answers, but I’ve come up short when it pertains to my own life. I decided I needed a consultant of my own, but I’ve exhausted the self-help circuit, so I was willing to give anything a try—even something seemingly random, like a fortune cookie.
I noticed that this new year, more than in previous years, people have been embarking on more self-reflective exercises– especially ones that are more long-term like blogging or written journals. Do you think there has been a shift from traditional resolutions such as losing weight or eating healthy to more personal & mentally therapeutic goals? If so, do you think there is a reason for this shift?
I think resolutions centered on establishing or breaking bad habits will always be common simply because that’s what people talk about and it’s what’s expected. But it does seem like more and more people are taking those somewhat typical goals and folding them into bigger objectives, and this might have something to do with the fact that 2009 seemed to be a really hard year for so many people in a number of ways. I think it’s created a desire for a more emotional or spiritual reward or change, beyond numbers on a scale or a good check-up at the doctor’s office. At least that’s what triggered it for me—a yearning for guidance that will hopefully lead me to the discovery of a more clearly defined purpose for myself.
What made you decide on using fortune cookies as opposed to say– astrology or horoscopes?
I think I like the idea that there’s a personal choice involved with fortune cookies, as compared to a blanket statement put out there for anyone born between a certain date bracket (I’m a Leo, incidentally). With the cookies, there’s at least some sense of control because I get to mix up where I get them from every week, which is really fun and adds to the journey aspect of it all. Oh, and speaking of Zodiac—in terms of the Chinese New Year, which falls on February 14 this year—I was born in the Year of the Tiger. 2010 also happens to be the Year of the Tiger! I didn’t realize this when I first started the Fortunate Cookie project, but I love the synchronicity.
Have you noticed any patterns in the fortunes? Do they usually fall under a particular theme? What do you do if you get the same fortune twice?
Well, it’s still early on, so no patterns yet, but that’s part of what I hope to trace throughout this experiment. I guess the only pattern so far is the fact that I find myself really analyzing the words in each fortune, but that might just be the writer in me. I think it would be really fun if I got the same fortune twice, so I could compare where I was when I first got it, and how or if I’ve changed by the second time it comes around.

It’s really interesting because you take the idea of a fortune, and instead of seeing if the fortune will predict the future, you use it to dictate what you should be doing to improve your life. It’s like adding the concept of free will into the equation, which in turn makes the fortune actually become true! Before this experiment, did you always view fortunes the same way (as a method for improving) or did you take them as prophetic of future events?
When I first got the idea for this project, I wasn’t sure the fortunes would serve as a sign of things to come, or inspire me to head in a particular direction. Though I’ve made a conscious decision to act on the fortunes as much as possible, I still think there’s a prediction element involved. I really like the mix of the two approaches, and I think it will be interesting to see if there’s a week where a particular fortune proves to be particularly challenging in terms of trying to weave it into my life—will it find a way in regardless?
Prior to this project, I think I looked at fortunes from cookies as more of a test, in the sense of, “Does this actually apply to my life as is right now?” versus a directive of any kind. And though I’m sure some would say this trick never gets old, I’m happy to report I’ve long since graduated from adding the phrase “in bed” to the end of every message. Ah, maturity!
It seems that in so many cultures, eating is used as a time for reflection; many people say grace before a meal or open a fortune cookie at the end… What do you think it is about meals and eating that promotes reflection? Do you think it is because it is a repetitive act or one that we need to survive which causes us to focus more on our lives in general?
Actually, I think it would be nice to have MORE reflection associated with eating and meals. It seems like in the U.S., it’s all about what’s convenient and quick, and that’s not doing anything for our souls, or our waistlines. But in other cultures, it seems like the reflection is a natural fit when it comes to “breaking bread” so to speak, especially because you’re often in the company of others, so it makes sense that a discussion along those lines might evolve. I’m a big fan of intimate dinner parties to foster this type of dialogue, but I think I need to improve my cooking skills before hosting any such events on a regular basis. I’m working on it, though!
So, of course my final question is what is your favorite Chinese dish?
If I’m being “good,” I usually order some sort of steamed selection, like today I had steamed shrimp and snow peas with just a touch of brown rice and garlic sauce on the side. If I’m not watching my waistline or counting calories, I love anything that involves noodles or cooked Szechuan style. Also, I almost ALWAYS order egg drop soup with my meal—I use it as a gauge to assess the quality of a given place. Good egg drop soup equals good Chinese food. Trust me: it never fails.
Follow along with Sarah’s fortune cookie adventure at: http://blog.fortunatecookieblog.com/