6 Sensory-Friendly Back-to-School Shopping Tips for Parents of Autistic Kids

By Matt Rokowsky is the CEO at Above and Beyond Therapy in North Carolina

The back-to-school shopping season can be stressful for any parent, as it’s oftentimes a whirlwind of lists, crowds, bright lights, and last-minute decisions. However, for parents of autistic children, back-to-school shopping can bring a unique set of challenges. Autistic kids often experience the world differently due to heightened sensory sensitivities, communication differences, and anxiety about change. So a noisy and chaotic store packed with people and fluorescent lights can quickly become overwhelming.

This is why thoughtful shopping preparation is paramount for parents of autistic kids. As the CEO of Above and Beyond Therapy, where we provide personalized ABA therapy in North Carolina, I’ve seen firsthand how back-to-school shopping can be a more positive and manageable experience with the right strategies in place. Here are tried-and-true tips on creating a sensory-friendly shopping trip that supports the unique needs of an autistic child.

Preparation is Key, So Plan Ahead

One of the most effective ways to reduce stress is to prepare as much as possible before you and your child set foot in a store. I recommend creating a visual schedule, as many autistic children benefit from visual aids. You can use pictures or icons to map out the whole shopping trip from start to finish. Even include steps such as getting dressed, driving to the store, picking out a shopping cart, shopping for school clothes and supplies, and returning home.

After you create the visual schedule, make a detailed list of all of the items you need to purchase. It may be easier to break the school supply list into categories, with sections for clothing, supplies, and lunch items, then you can check off items as you go. This adds structure and predictability to the trip. Once your list is done, decide on the best time to shop. Aim for quieter times like weekday mornings or early evenings. Try avoiding the weekend or the busy after-work hours to reduce exposure to crowds and noise.

Finally, practice the shopping trip with your child. If your kid is new to the back-to-school shopping process or has had difficult experiences before, you can try role-playing at home. You can even simulate shopping by using pretend money or organizing a “store” in your living room. This kind of playful rehearsal can make the real outing feel more predictable and less overwhelming.

Choose Sensory-Friendly Stores and Events

Nowadays, more retailers are recognizing the importance of sensory inclusion and are beginning to offer accommodations for neurodivergent shoppers. So check to see if retailers offer sensory-friendly hours. For example, stores like Target, Walmart, and Staples oftentimes have designated sensory-friendly shopping events during the back-to-school season. These hours typically include dimmed lights, reduced noise, and limited announcements.

You can also call ahead and get in touch with a store manager to ask about quiet times or any accommodations they can provide. Some may be willing to turn down the store’s music or help you check out quicker. Even consider shopping at small retailers, aslocal businesses may be more flexible and less overwhelming for your child. Alternatively, online shopping can be a great option, because it will allow your child to choose items at their own pace from the comfort of home.

Pack a Sensory Toolkit

Having a sensory toolkit can be a game-changer for parents of autistic kids during shopping trips. Customize the toolkit based on your child’s needs. Include noise-canceling headphones or ear defenders to block out overwhelming sounds. Other must-include items are sunglasses or a hat with a brim to shield from a store’s bright lights, fidget toys or chewable jewelry to help with self-regulation, and snacks and drinks to keep energy levels stable. 

Including comfort items like a stuffed animal or blanket can also provide emotional reassurance for your child. Keep the toolkit in a backpack or purse and make sure to let your child know it’s there whenever they need it.

Involve Your Child in the Process

Giving your kid a sense of control can ease anxiety and build confidence. Before the shopping trip, show your child pictures of items you plan to buy ahead of time so they have a clear idea of what to expect. If possible, involve them while you put together the shopping list. For example, you can ask them which lunchbox or backpack they prefer or what kind of shoes they would like for the new school year. Including them in the decision-making process will help foster independence and make the whole experience more collaborative.

During the school shopping trip, offer 2 or 3 choices for each item so they can make decisions without being overwhelmed by too many choices. Also, celebrate small victories throughout the trip. Whether it’s selecting an item independently or spending a few minutes in the store calmly, these are meaningful moments that deserve positive reinforcement. Recognizing these achievements can help build confidence and make the experience feel more rewarding for your child.

Have a Calm Exit Plan

Even with the best preparation, meltdowns or sensory overloads may still happen during the shopping trip. And that’s okay! Having a calm exit plan in place can make all the difference. First, identify quiet calm-down areas in or near the store where your child can take a break if needed. Also, establish a simple code word or signal your child can use to let you know they’re feeling overwhelmed or need to leave. Finally, be prepared to cut the trip short if necessary. Sometimes it’s best to pause the trip and try again later, or switch to online shopping when your child is in a more regulated state.

After the shopping trip, take time to debrief together. Talk about what went well and what felt challenging, as this reflection will help your child process the experience and provide valuable insights for future outings.

Be Kind to Yourself

Supporting an autistic child through all the back-to-school transitions can be physically and emotionally exhausting, so be kind to yourself. Remember that you are doing your best and every effort you make to support your child’s sensory and emotional needs is meaningful. Progress is progress, no matter how small, and each step forward is a victory worth acknowledging. Also, reach out for support if needed. Local autism parent groups, online communities like Reddit, and ABA therapy professionals can offer valuable guidance, encouragement, and understanding.

Final Thoughts

Back-to-school shopping doesn’t have to be overwhelming. With thoughtful preparation, sensory-friendly strategies, and a flexible mindset, this busy time can become a more manageable (and even empowering) experience for both you and your kid. Every child is unique, so trust your instincts, celebrate small wins, and adjust as needed. Most importantly, remember that your efforts matter. You’re helping to create a shopping experience where your child feels safe, respected, and supported. 

Matt Rokowsky is the CEO at Above and Beyond Therapy in North Carolina, which is dedicated to helping children with Autism Spectrum Disorder thrive and reach their fullest potential. In his role, Matt educates others on how to support autistic individuals, challenge stigmas, and understand the unique strengths and challenges they may face. For more information, go to Above and Beyond.

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