Breakups suck! There’s nothing worse than feeling lost and having your mind drift back to your ex. That repetitive thought of knowing that the person you love is no longer a part of your life can instantly make you feel insane. It can drive you to do stupid things you’ll either regret or perhaps laugh at later on. If you’re absolutely positively sure that this is the end of your relationship, prepare yourself for a whirlwind of daily emotions. To speed up the process of moving on, here are six ways that can help you get over your ex.
“I need a vacation!” is the common refrain when life gets rough, so why not take a time out when something so life changing is currently happening in YOUR life? Of course booking a trip to Fiji would be great because you’d be in an exotic Polynesian paradise, but are you ready to be surrounded by couples during this time? Maybe not! You don’t need to travel so far to withdraw from issues back home. Instead, go on a weekend yoga or spiritual retreat where your chances of being surrounded by couples are minimal. If you’re neither a yogis nor a spiritual person, even better! Open your mind to new things and welcome new ideas. The purpose is to clear your mind and relax. Who knows, you may end up with a new passion.
Not everyone is interested in reading a book after a breakup, but the right book can work wonders. Reading can be a temporary escape if you can’t afford a vacation. Select a book that will help you understand what you are going through or a book that will set you on a path for self-improvement. Here are a few suggestions: You Are What You Think by David Stoop; Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller; and, The Pocket Dalai Lama.
Redecorating an apartment or a house that you shared with an ex love is a must. Every corner you turn, anything you touch, every single piece of furniture will remind you of your ex. There’s no need to make immediate drastic changes like painting your mint green walls black. Start small by taking down some photographs, getting rid of that favorite pillow or piece of furniture. Buy new bedding and start taking on DIY projects to make your home feel suitable for you and not for two. If your finances don’t allow you to redecorate, just rearrange the space with the furniture you have, perhaps adding a few new touches.
Martial Arts/Dance Class
A beginner’s martial arts or dance class can help you get over some of the past. Physical activity is a great way to occupy your mind with new energy and material. Fitness and dance requires a lot of attention to detail and a dedication to work towards improvement. And taking classes can lead you to meet new people and creat new relationships.
A therapist has the ability to help you work on issues that you may not see on your own. They can help you break unhealthy patterns and work on your well-being. Wouldn’t it be nice to focus on your needs versus having to consider someone else’s? If you’re struggling with letting your ex completely go, then therapy may be extremely beneficial in helping you change your thought process and emotions. If you want to give it a try but you’re still apprehensive about taking to someone in person, consider downloading apps on your phone such as Talkspace.
Art & Wine
Consider a fun activity, such as mastering how to manipulate a brush in one hand and hold a glass of wine in the other. Gather a few friends, learn new techniques, and get your Picasso on. Art is extremely therapeutic and can help release tension and emotions.
Detaching yourself and moving on from someone you’ve shared part of your life with is hard work, but it can be done. As much as it may feel like this is the end of it all, it’s NOT! Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end. – Seneca